Friday, June 1, 2012

Happy Anniversary...

to us!

Today - June 1st - is our 10th wedding anniversary. 
It seems like ancient history. 
As is obvious from our blog, a lot has happened in those ten years. 

Looking back at pictures of our wedding sure brings back lots of old memories of good times and old friends.  Here are just a few:












Best wedding we've ever been to so far!
Thanks to everyone who has encouraged, supported, advised, prayed for, and helped us make our marriage a success. 
Most importantly, we thank God for all the ways He's guided us through our crazy life.  We wouldn't have it any other way.

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Levi is 3 months old!

Levi is 3 months old.  In some aspects time seems to have gone by fast but in many others it's been very slow.  Levi is a very happy baby and smiles all the time.  He's rather easy . . . except at night.  He's still waking every 3 hours to nurse and not giving us much sleep.  Aliyah was sleeping 7 hours at a stretch when she was 3 months old.  I guess we were hopeful to have Levi sleeping well by now too.  With Aliyah being 18 months old and very energetic, our days are tiring and our nights are not restful.  Hopefully Levi's 4 month post will have better news on that front.

Levi is picking his head up and now can roll over from belly to back at 3 1/2 months.  He likes to play with toys and suck on them.  Aliyah likes to bring him more toys than he can hold then take them all away.  I can't wait until he's a bit bigger and they can interact more.  She's a good big sister, just a bit rough for him yet.  I'm sure someday he'll be bigger and stronger than her and get her back.
He's getting big.  13.5 lbs and growing quickly out of his 0-3 month clothes.  I've gotta get the next size clothes down from storage.

He's a bit Honduran in that he loves to swing in the hammock by himself but he'll settle for a swing with me and Aliyah too.



I noticed this month that Levi and I (Abby) have matching birthmarks on our backs.  Cute!
Levi comes to town with us when we go every 2 weeks but Aliyah stays back with a babysitter.  It's an hour long, very bumpy ride each way which he tolerates really well and then he gets carried around in a baby carrier the whole day.  He travels so much better than Aliyah did.
Levi loves to coo and even recently was laughing.


Thursday, May 17, 2012

New in Town

After being back at the hospital for a while, we were running low on some essentials and decided we needed to take a trip into town.
Aliyah stayed at home with a baby-sitter and Levi came with.  He's been really good on car rides and generally is one of those kids that just sleeps the whole time.


This is a blog about the new things we noticed in Ceiba. One of the reasons I like living - and driving - around here is because life always keeps you on your toes. Like driving down the road and swerving to miss the man hole with no cover. That was new since last time we drove down that road.
We actually had to pull over and back up to take the picture - because it was funny.


There's a new Subway at the mall!  We don't have to drive 3 1/2 hours to El Progresso anymore to get Subway! They even have $5 Foot-Longs! but they're called 93 Lempira 30 centimeters. It doesn't flow as well, but it's the same thing.


Here they'll even add slices of fresh avocado to your sandwich. We've never had that before on a Subway and it was good.


We have a new chicken! Friends of ours from one of the nearby communities gave Aliyah her first very own pet - A fledgling chicken! We asked Aliyah what she'd like to name it and she kept replying with the squawking noise we've taught her that chickens make "Baawwk!"- so we've simplified it to BaBa.


Down in the stream bed next to our apartment a large jungle tree was knocked down. So some of the workers from the hospital cut it up into useable chunks for building some of our construction projects. 


All of this wood is cut free-hand with a chainsaw into portions that are easier to transport. It's pretty amazing how skilled these guys are to cut such straight and even lines.


Monday, May 14, 2012

Poverty?

So I know this is a long post, but I think it's one that really has some food for thought, so stick with me. Not every post can be filled with pictures of cute kids!

Just the other day we had some short-term (3-6 weeks) visitors that are working at the hospital over for lunch.  At one point the conversation turned to how short-term teams can be harmful to a developing world society if their view of poverty and help is from a 1st world perspective.
Let me explain.
One of the visitors was given some "helpful" advice before coming to Honduras from another person in his life.  She suggested he bring as many US pennies as he could to hand out to the kids he meets so that they could remember their encounter with him and have something from America that they otherwise may never see.  Although, I can't see how this helps these kids, it's hard to see why it might hurt them, right?

Maybe I can illustrate it in a more obvious way.  Many short-term mission trips I've been on before becoming a long-term missionary handed out candy to all the kids.  We'd bring candy from the States so they could try something different, as if their life was so sheltered that this would bring them great joy . . .  Anyway, shortly after that a dental team comes through and pulls a bunch of rotten teeth beyond repair and tries to hand out toothbrushes.  Then another team comes through handing out candy then another dental team etc., etc..

After too many exposures to North Americans like this, people in impoverished countries come to realize that these visitors are good for handouts - some useful, some not.  Sometimes even big ones like laptops, guitars, etc.

Now, I'm not saying short-term teams are bad.  In fact, they're good for both sides (the visitors and visitees) IF the visitors understand what true poverty is and what "help" the people need.  To quote from the article I've pasted below from Steve Saint, " . . .  poverty is more of an attitude and a mood than an actual state of having or not having something. In such contexts, contentment is the secret. Some people think 1 Timothy 6:6 says “Godliness is a means of gain,” but really it says “Godliness with contentment is great gain.” Where there is godliness with contentment there is no perceived “poverty” until discontentment has been stirred." and " When we project poverty on people where it doesn’t exist, we also overlook the actual poverty with which they struggle."

His article is definitely worth the 5 minutes it will take to read it.  The old adage "Give a man a fish, and he eats for a day.  Teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime." really rings true here.  Who are we (North Americans) to come running into another culture and tell them what they need and what they're missing out on.  They never missed out on these material things until they were introduced to them anyway.  The true poverty is spiritual and is met with discipleship.  Discipleship takes time and dedicated personal investment from long-term missionaries or other local committed Christians.  Those pennies given out during a short-term trip from someone who spent an hour with them won't create a long lasting impact on their lives, or meet a need they have, and most importantly won't change their true impoverished spiritual state.

So then what's my advice to those going on a short-term mission trip?
1. Read "When Helping Hurts" or take a CHE (Community Health Evangelism) course about how to really help in a culture other than your own.  Without this understanding short-term teams have the real potential to be a bull in a china shop rather than a blessing they really could be.
2. Short-term teams are a GREAT help to encourage and augment the work of an established missionary, local church or local believer.  Understanding this will change the way you view your trip and pack your bags.  Sustaining and encouraging a long-term missionary really does help them from burning out,  keeps them on the field longer and makes them more efficient at their jobs.  Augment the work a missionary is already doing and watch them have an exponential effect.  It also makes the work you do that week have so much more of an impact than you could have done on your own in 1 week of just passing through.  Long-term missionaries have spent years developing relationships with the local people and creating a good reputation for Christians in general.  You have the opportunity to piggy back on that, use it!
3.  Understand your missions trip and the people you serve during it will probably impact you and teach you more than you teach them in your short time there and that's OKAY!  Again, short-term teams are good for the visitors AND the ones being visited!  Sometimes God designs your trip to teach you and awaken you to something He has being trying to tell you.  Maybe a trip away from work, materialism, and tv was what God was waiting for so you could finally hear Him.


http://www.missionfrontiers.org/issue/article/projecting-poverty-where-it-doesnt-exist#.T6anqQxD2et.facebook

Projecting Poverty Where It Doesn’t ExistProjecting Poverty Where It Doesn’t Exist
I have been in relationship with the Waodani since 1956, when they killed my dad Nate and four of his friends. My relationship continued through the time my aunt Rachel lived with them beginning in 1958 through her death in 1994. I most recently lived with the Waodani beginning just after Aunt Rachel’s death in 1994 until later in 1997, maintaining a house and spending about one quarter of my time with them until 2008.
When people visit the Waodani, they look around and think, “Wow, these people have nothing!” People from the outside think the Waodani are poor because they don’t have three-bedroom ramblers with wall-to-wall carpeting, double garages so full of stuff the cars never fit and, I guess, because they never take vacations to exotic places like Disney World.
So, on speaking tours I began describing these jungle dwellers as “People who all have water front property, multiple houses and spend most of their time hunting and fishing.” The most common response I have gotten when describing the Waodani this way is, “Wow, would I ever like to live like that!” I agree completely.
Mincaye, on the other hand, sees the way we “Outsiders” live here in “The foreigner’s place” and makes comments like; “Why, never sitting, do the foreigners run around and around in their car things speaking to each other on their talking things but never hunting or fishing or telling stories to each other?” After traveling and speaking with me in the U.S., Canada and Europe, Mincaye is always greatly relieved to get back to his thatched roof hut, with the open fire wafting smoke in his face, eating whatever happens to be in the cooking pot. He sits around in jungle-stained clothes and the look on his face tells it all. He would not live in North America for all the green paper and little pieces of plastic he could carry. He doesn’t understand how money and credit cards work but he knows foreigners can’t leave home without them.
Mincaye is a rich man. Or, he was until someone taught him to drive a golf cart and he started thinking how much fun it would be to take his 57 grandchildren for rides up and down the Nemompade airstrip where we used to live together. Now he wants his own golf cart (which means he would need a charging station, and a solar panel farm to power it, and a shop to maintain it, and spare parts to keep it running….)
From my life experiences with the Waodani—and other people groups in Africa, Asia and South America who live simply and materially contentedly—I have learned that it is unreasonable to evaluate their “lack” based on our distorted and exaggerated perception of need. When we try to meet phantom needs of people who live at a lower material standard than we have learned to consider “minimal,” we not only fall into a trap that keeps us from seeing their real needs but we also tempt them into a snare that can raise their perception of need beyond what their economy can support.
When we project poverty on people where it doesn’t exist, we also overlook the actual poverty with which they struggle. Solomon said it well, “Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income. This too is meaningless. As goods increase so do those who consume them” (Ecc 5:10–11).

Dangerous Charity

Often charity to help the poor attracts more people into poverty. One example I have noticed takes place when North Americans try to care for the needs of orphans in cultures different from our own. If you build really nice orphanages and provide good food and a great education, lots more children in those places become orphans. I see this happen all over. When we attempt to eradicate poverty through charity, we often attract more people into “needing” charity. It is possible to create need where it did not exist by projecting our standards, values and perception of need onto others.
So what is poverty? We in the “Wealthy West” have little understanding of “poverty.” As our standard of living has risen in developed countries, our perception of poverty has changed.
Consider how our definition of an orphan is different from most other cultures. In the U.S., you are an orphan if your mother and father have died. In South America (where I grew up), as in other contexts where extended family structures are intact, you are not really considered an orphan as long as you have a living grandparent, uncle, aunt or older brother or sister who is capable of helping take care of you. So when North Americans build an orphanage in South America, we “create” orphans by tempting family members to take advantage of our well-intentioned largess. This is seldom in the best interest of those children who are “orphaned” by our desire to meet what we perceive as their need.

Provoking Poverty

In the same way, proximity and exposure to wealth can provoke a sense of poverty. A group of North Americans going on a short-term mission—with our international cell phones, iPads, fancy clothes and fat wallets to buy curios and spend on hotels and restaurants—can create more comparative poverty than most of us can imagine.
But, all of that is not the issue. Do we have a responsibility to care for the poor? Yes. 1 Cor 8:11–15 hits the nail on the head. Let me summarize—“No Christ follower should have too much while anyone else has too little.” So, should we all become poor so that we are no longer responsible? No. Paul also points out that this teaching is not intended to put the poor at ease and to burden the wealthy (2 Th 3:6-12).
Among people living simply amidst abundant resources, poverty is not measured in annual income or net worth, but in “what I have in comparison to what those around me have.” In such contexts poverty is more of an attitude and a mood than an actual state of having or not having something. In such contexts, contentment is the secret. Some people think 1 Timothy 6:6 says “Godliness is a means of gain,” but really it says “Godliness with contentment is great gain.” Where there is godliness with contentment there is no perceived “poverty” until discontentment has been stirred.

Building Up Christ’s Body

Our goal in planting Christ’s church where it doesn’t exist must be to produce churches that are self-propagating, self-governing and self-supporting; especially where the members come from a background of hopelessness, powerlessness and inadequate resources. The most important aspect of church planting is whatever that fledgling congregation needs most. In a growing number of cases, the greatest need new churches have is to become self-supporting.
Giving handouts creates more problems than it solves. It is like casting out demons with long leases. Break the lease or they will come back and bring more roommates (Lk 11:24–26). Where the Church is being established among people that perceive themselves as powerless, there is a great need for deep discipleship, wrestling with the roots of poverty at the community level rather than concentrating on the individual.
Financial help that does not develop sustainable, local, financial self-sufficiency is much more likely to create poverty than it is to meet real needs. Until we realize that we can’t overcome poverty with handouts, we will never be much help in completing Christ’s Great Commission.
As followers of Christ we must fight poverty through discipleship rather than covering it with spiritual frosting. Either we do God’s will God’s way or we aren’t doing His will at all. Discipleship means teaching others what we have learned so they can teach others to care for their community’s physical, economic, emotional and spiritual needs on a sustainable basis! (2 Tim 2:2, Mt 28:19–20)

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Happy Mother's Day!

Happy Mother's Day!

Don't we look put together here!  In actuality this moment wasn't as peaceful as it looks.  With Levi almost 3 months old and Aliyah 18 months old, life is pretty chaotic and most days were just trying to keep our heads above water.

Aliyah loves her accessories.  These sunglasses came with the car when we bought it.

Getting ready for our almost daily walk up the big steep hill we live on.

Taking a break on our way up the hill in the shade.

Awww, what can you say.  They're worth it.

Aliyah loves to smell every flower in the garden.



Sunday, May 6, 2012

Long time no post!

Well, by now most of you have noticed we haven't posted anything in almost three weeks and a few of you have told us about it!
It appears we were not quite ready for the adjustment to living here with two kids while attempting to continue to attend to our duties and responsibilities here at the hospital.  It has been a little overwhelming to say the least. 

Aliyah does not seem to have a medium or slow button, and she demands a lot of our attention. Though he's down to just one feeding at night, Levi has had some digestion issues which give him a lot of gas and make him very uncomfortable at times, especially throughout the night when he tosses, turns, grunts, whines, and generally tries to keep us up all night.   

We've made some changes, some arrangements, and we'll get through this eventually.

Abby's working at clinic throughout the week, Rimas is currently helping organize the paperwork for the three shipping containers of supplies the hospital is expecting in the next several weeks. This will be interesting, we'll see how it goes. Three container loads of supplies is a lot of stuff!

Of course, we've taken a lot of pictures over the past few weeks and we'll start posting them in upcoming blogs.  We'll start with the ones below for now:

Waiting at the airport to go back to Honduras. It was hard to get a picture of Aliyah - she was on the move the whole time!

Aliyah loved the airport. What a great place to run! And she wasn't shy about walking up to total strangers and waving and saying "Hello!" - which sounded more like "A-oh!"

Our friend Erica had her baby boy exactly a week after Levi was born. It was great to finally meet him! 

There's a lot of stuff happening at the hospital - especially construction projects! This is a new girl's home at the children's center. Everything's getting big quick - 

 - including the palms!

Right now is one of the hot, sometimes stifling, times of the year. Aliyah gets to play in the pool on the porch and cool off almost every day.

One of the days was hot enough that Abby and Levi had to get in too! There wasn't any room for Rimas.

And finally, it's not hard to get a smile - or at least a grin - out of Levi!

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Last Full Day in Illinois!!

Today was a big day.  Actually, the morning was pretty horrible.  Aliyah's just getting over a cold.  Levi has one.  He didn't sleep well last night.  Therefore, we did not sleep well. 
After getting up way too early, we tried to finish packing up and cleaning our apartment while tending to two very dependent children.  They cried.  We did the best we could.  Finally, the apartment was emptied, everything fit in the car (barely), and we drove to Grandma and Grandpa Kohl's house for lunch (they will drive us to the airport in the morning).

The packed car - TOTALLY full

When we got there, Abby went to do some errands, Levi took a nap, and it was really nice out, so Aliyah and I took a walk outside.  
We found a Tiger salamander!
Cheese!!
Aliyah was very interested and very gentle with it.
Then we let it go.

On our walk through the woods we have to stop occasionally because Aliyah loves getting thrown up in the air.

We got to play with our old dog Chica.

Grandpa gave Aliyah a ride in the tractor.

Finally, it was time to relax in Grandma's flower bed. 

Levi was still sleeping. I guess he really missed out on a nice afternoon.  Tomorrow it's off to the airport!